EmptyInside: I can totally relate to what you have said. I have come to hate the term "worldly" since it is very divisive and judgemental. Now I simply refer to the person as an individual or say nonJW if there is a need to distinguish. At the same time I avoid emotional labels to Witnnesses who are still in the Organization. I know that they, like I once was, are completely mind controlled.
Looking way back even before I became one of Jehovah's Witnesses I remember my grandmother referring to Communists disparagingly because they were "Godless Atheists". I told her that they were people just like us who loved their families and wanted what was best for them. Being a super fundamentalist she just couldn't hear it. I can see now that I became just like her in many ways when I was a JW. As an aside she did tell me that JWs were the false prophet.
I could never accept that God was going to destroy the majority of people because they didn't respond or didn't even hear the message we carried. How could they make a life and death decision when they hadn't had a chance to gain the knowledge they needed? Where was the love? Where was the justice? Where was the wisdom? Why didn't he use his power to save people rather than destroy them?
I am also learning to have more empathy.
It is important to remember the past to learn from it but not dwelling on it so much that we can't move forward.
Reopened Mind, another work in progress